What we see
To observe something you have to interact with it, and the very fact that you have interacted with it changes its original state. Your interaction can be visual (seeing) or sensory (touching) or in any other form, bottomline is you have to interact, and thus what you observe is your interaction with the observed or the reaction of the observed to your stimluli. Thus, what we observe is not actually what it is The same holds for people and relations, to observe a person in isolation is impossible. What we observe is our interaction with the person and how the person reacted to our stimuli. Thus the image we get of the person is actually an hybrid of the persons original self and our original self which was responsible for the stimuli. Thus, what we think of people is not what actually what they are. But then I am only bothered about how people react to me rather then how is their original self.